It wasnarrated that Jarir bin 'Abdullah Al-Bajali said:
"We used tothink that gathering with the family of the deceased and preparingfood was a form of wailing." (RU)
English reference (RU): Vol. 1, Book 6, Hadith 1612 (RU)
Arabic reference (RU): Book 6, Hadith 1680 (RU)