It wasnarrated that Jarir bin 'Abdullah Al-Bajali said:
"We used tothink that gathering with the family of the deceased and preparingfood was a form of wailing." (JA)
English reference (JA): Vol. 1, Book 6, Hadith 1612 (JA)
Arabic reference (JA): Book 6, Hadith 1680 (JA)