(5) بَابُ لِينِ الْكَلاَمِ لِوَالِدَيْهِ
Taysala ibn Mayyas said, "I was with the Najadites [Kharijites] when Icommitted wrong actions which I supposed were major wrong actions. I mentionedthat to Ibn 'Umar. He inquired, 'What are they?" I replied, 'Such-and-such.'He stated, 'These are not major wrong actions. There are nine major wrongactions. They are:
associating others with Allah, killing someone, desertionfrom the army when it is advancing, slandering a chaste woman, usury, consumingan orphan's property, heresy in the mosque, scoffing, and causing one's parentsto weep through disobedience.' Ibn 'Umar then said to me, 'Do you wish toseparate yourself from the Fire? Would you like to enter Paradise?' 'By Allah,yes!' I replied. He asked, 'Are your parents still alive?' I replied, 'Mymother is.' He said, 'By Allah, if you speak gently to her and feed her,then you will enter the Garden as long as you avoid the major wrong actions.'"
Reference: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 8
In-book reference: Book 1, Hadith 8
English translation: Book 1, Hadith 8