(9) بَابُ يَبَرُّ وَالِدَيْهِ مَا لَمْ يَكُنْ مَعْصِيَةً
Abu'd-Darda' said, "The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and granthim peace, recommended nine things to me:
'Do not associate anything withAllah, even if you are cut to pieces or burned. Do not abandon a prescribedprayer deliberately. Anyone who abandons it will forfeit Allah's protection.Do not drink wine - it is the key to every evil. Obey your parents. If theycommand you to abandon your worldly possessions, then leave them for them.Do not contend with those in power, even if you think that you are in theright. Do not run away from the army when it advances, even if you arekilled while your companions run away. Spend on your wife out of your means.Do not raise a stick against your wife. Cause your family to fear Allah,the Almighty and Exalted.'"
Reference: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 18
In-book reference: Book 1, Hadith 18
English translation: Book 1, Hadith 18