Friday, 01 December 2023 | 01:09 AM
Condolences are the smallest act of empathy that we can offer as humans, but this little act has big meanings attached to it. Making dua for condolence to the family of the deceased is about being there and caring for others. The practice of offering condolence shows solidarity and empathy for those who are grieving. It serves as an expression of consideration for those who are grieving the loss of their loved one. When offering condolences, remember the deceased in good words.
Narrated by Anas bin Malik and reported in Sahih al-Bukhari 1367, "A funeral procession passed, and the people praised the deceased. The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "It has been affirmed to him." Then, another funeral procession passed, and the people spoke badly of the deceased. The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "It has been affirmed to him." `Umar bin Al-Khattab asked (Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)), "What has been affirmed?" He replied, "You praised this, so Paradise has been affirmed to him; and you spoke badly of this, so Hell has been affirmed to him. You people are Allah's witnesses on earth."
Sickness & Death
'Inna lillaahi maa 'akhatha, wa lahu maa 'a'taa, wa kullu shay'in 'indahu bi'ajalin musamman . . . faltasbir waltahtasib.(1)'A'dhamallaahu 'ajraka, wa 'ahsana 'azaa'aka wa ghafara limayyitika.(2)
Surely, Allah takes what is His, and what He gives is His, and to all things He has appointed a time. So have patience and be rewarded.(1)May Allah magnify your reward, and make perfect your bereavement, and forgive your departed.(2)
When making dua for condolence, be kind and mindful when you speak. Do not force your presence on the family or the loved ones left behind. Make sure you give them the space to grieve and be there for them when they need you. Offer condolences with kindness rather than indulging in the talk of the world. Talk about the deceased in good words and remember the good things so that the grieving can find some solace in the good memories and pray for their forgiveness and elevation of their status in the heavens.
The benefits to the deceased, when one makes dua for them, are to a great extent. Our prayers reach Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى), and if we do good on behalf of the deceased, it reaches them too. Make you offer condolence to the family or loved ones of the departed; you are helping them deal with the loss, and it will help them be patient. It also makes one reflect on one's life and how short it is while one reflects on the life of the deceased. This can help find closure for the grieving and motivation to abstain from sin.
To offer condolences, be kind and empathetic in your demeanor, and do it when the family or the grieving is comfortable. Do not impose yourself.
One can grieve in their heart and even cry, but wailing or beating one's self is prohibited as wailing adds to the grief of the departed. Remember Allah Azzawajal, and seek patience and strength from Him.